I have just watched a documentary found here http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/tough-guise/ about the violent rite of passage boys must navigate in order to become men. Because violence is perceived as an integral component of being a man, nearly all of the violence on the planet is inflicted by men. Yet, I know of one R and B musical group from whom the songs bring only messages of love and loss. That r and b/ gospel groups name is "boys to men".